Fellas, if we could only understand what goes on in a woman’s head, huh? Well with these insightful tips from us, you’re halfway there, and the next time you approach a girl you’ll have a real head start…
1. Confidence is the Key
Being 100% confident in who you are, no matter what, is the most crucial element. Take a breath. Look around. Feel good. Think about your body language even as you walk over. She is the lucky girl here – she gets to meet you.
Make positive eye contact and stay in control as you project an inner strength and confidence that will turn her on even before you say the first word.
Sure, women pay attention to things such as your hair, attire, and shoes, so make sure your shoes are clean and you feel like you look your best, but more importantly you should feel at your best, and believe in yourself.
Oh and one more practical tip here – you will need to check your breath. Do you have gum or a freshener needed for close conversation after you ate that garlic bread? You would be wise to consider what a pack of chewy freshness can do for your confidence before you approach that cute girl in the club!
Whatever happens, project that self-assurance, bordering on arrogance, without going ‘over-the-top’. Even you think she’s out of your league – you’d be surprised what a confident first impression can achieve. Either way, the key is to have some guts and make the approach without being intimidated.
2. Be Interested, and Interesting
Sounds obvious! But when you do actually approach her, make sure you have something insightful to say, and ask her about herself.
You could begin by saying something extremely arrogant and funny to get her attention, or just use something in your immediate context to get the conversation started. Then keep the conversation on her and what she loves to do. People love to talk about themselves usually, and with this technique you’ll never run out of things to talk about. Sure, you have a life too and no doubt are itching to tell her how great you are and what you do etc, but let her ask you – make her curious and hold a few good nuggets of information back for later.
A little mystery is good, but don’t be too aloof.
Within the first two minutes of conversation you’ll probably know if this girl is digging you, so try to spot visual cues that will give this away from the moment you speak to her. Is she playing with her hair or jewellery? How’s your eye contact? Is she edging a little closer?
3. Have Character
Focussing on you for a moment, think about what kind of personality you are presenting. Be you. Again keep confident as the conversation grows and stay in control, showing flair and charisma. Are you funny? Relax and be funny. If not, don’t try too hard. When it comes to talking about you, be original and keep her guessing a bit – don’t start with the obvious things first. As you chat and peak her interest, keep your cool and maintain a casual style – don’t get flustered no matter what. You’re all good, whatever happens…
4. Be chivalrous, but not too ‘nice’
Women do want a gentleman, but not a servant.
They key word here is ‘Orbit’. Are you orbiting around her, trying too hard to please her, accommodating to her… in short being a ‘nice’ guy – or is it the other way around? Does she have to adjust to your will a little, orbiting around you as the centre of the emotional and sexual gravity?
She should subconsciously get the impression that whilst you are treating her right – you can basically protect her and care for her – you aren’t a submissive character who will end up a doormat.
5. Make Your Move
When all is said and done there has to come a moment when there is no doubt in your mind or hers what is going on. It may be a kiss, a dance, getting her number, or leaving the club to go to that secluded cocktail bar… Whatever it may be she needs to feel you take charge of that moment and know without question that you and her are going places. Be decisive and take action with confidence and masculine power.
Best of luck in your quest for that special girl…